Bullet sex toys are a great starter in your journey with sex toys – they’re cute, accessible and discreet and one of the most popular toys among women and people with vulvas.
There’s also the fact that the best bullet vibrators can be found across loads of different price ranges, so there’s something for everyone to enjoy.
“Bullet vibrators are a sex toy staple, whether you’re new to toys or a pro,” says sex toy expert Sammi Cole. “They’re easy to use, simple to clean, and inexpensive. They also have the added advantage of being small and very discreet.”
Intrigued? Keep reading for our guide to using bullet sex toys and vibrators for newbies and people who want to make the most of their pre-existing bullet vibrators.
How to use a bullet sex toy, vibrator or small vibrator
Sure, bullet sex toys and vibrators are pretty petite compared to rabbit vibrators or wand vibrators that you plug into the wall, but don’t underestimate them. Sammi says, “Because of their shape, they’re great for really precise stimulation and focusing vibrations exactly where you want them most.”
So, while many people will use bullet vibrators directly against their clitoral hood or clitoris, depending on how sensitive their anatomy is, you can use it elsewhere, too.
“Try tracing the tip all over your vulva to discover brand new sweet spots that aren’t just the tip of the clitoris,” she says. In short, take some time experimenting with what feels good for you.
When the women of Reddit were asked what their favourite ever sex toy was, many were quick to chime in singing the praises of the humble bullet. One user said, “Honestly, my bullet vibe I got from a local store. It has enough speeds, was really inexpensive, and has been going strong for several months.”
Another user added, “Remote control bullet vibe Lyla by LELO. Super reliable bullet that’s pretty powerful and discrete, lots of speed settings and responsive. Had it for about two years and it’s still great.”
Use bullet sex toys and vibrators on other body parts, too
“Try pressing the vibrator against your other erogenous zones, such as your nipples, inner thighs, or perineum [you know, that bit of flesh between your vagina and butt],” she says. “A word of warning, though – because of their shape, most bullet vibes aren’t safe for anal use [because they don’t have a flared base, which means they could get lost inside], so keep your explorations external.”
Don’t just use the tip of the bullet sex toy
Most people will masturbate with a bullet vibrator by holding the tip of the toy against their sensitive spots, but Sammi explains there are other ways to wield a bullet.
“Hold it horizontally,” she says, “and you can enjoy vibrations across a broader area. This is particularly great if your genitals are quite sensitive, and/or if you prefer less intense stimulation.”
Use tons of lube
There’s still a weird stigma surrounding lube – the idea that it’s weird if you have to use it, and that you should naturally be “wet enough”. This is bullshit, FYI. How wet you get can be affected by everything from your hormones to how much time you have to get aroused. There should be no shame in using lubricant, and as well as making everything feel better, it prevents soreness and injury, too.
If you’re looking for a great all-rounder, suitable for all occasions lube, go for a water-based product like Liquid Silk. It’s affordable, washes off easily, isn’t sticky, is pretty much fragrance and taste-free, and it comes in a handy pump.
